‘Dilwale dulhania le jayenge’ completed 1000 weeks at a Mumbai theatre. There was an article by a journalist giving his reasons for why he did not like the movie. His contention – the movie was a cultural marker, shifting the societal psyche from rebellious and lovelorn young generation to patriarch and sacrificial young generation, whose idea of romance is accepting the parental diktats and choosing family over love. In a different interview, the said gentleman gave some examples from his friend circle to support this.
I understand where he is coming from. However, I did not see a complete shift in this trend. People were still rebelling. In addition, love marriages did not stop. In fact, parents over the decades have become more accepting of children’s choices. It was around the same time that I got married to the person of my choice. My best friend rejected a few family proposals and then suggested her selection, which was accepted. My brother married his sweetheart. I could see people all around me marrying for love. In the last five years, a handful of girls in my family and extended family have got married to boys from all castes and ethnicities, all for love. All of these marriages were arranged, and celebrated by the parents, families, and friends. Yes, the drama may be missing from this generation. The parents are no longer stentorian and authoritative, they do not go about declaring to their children, “Yeh shaadi nahin ho sakti” (this marriage cannot take place). The children are compliant, family oriented, and willing to go an extra mile to keep the family together. However, is this a wrong trend? Is it not more peaceful, especially, when there are so many other complications robbing personal peace? Can someone compare the statistics of times when children rebelled and eloped to the times after the cult-movie, when they did not as much (as per the journalist’s contention in his article), and confirm the figures of love marriages? Have people stopped loving? Did the romance die after the so-called, patriarchal trend set by the movie? May be, there is another trend emerging where most people are fair-weather lovers. Once the valentine day ends, so does the romance.
Is the new generation more practical and require more than love and fresh air for contentment? Although, I am not going to believe even for a minute that there is no romance left in the recent generations, however, I do believe that the face of romance might have changed. Each generation evolves, and new sensibilities replace old. People no longer write letters leave alone, letters in blood. Heck, people do not even write complete emails, unless for business. Coming back to the point, the cultural marker set by this movie is completely and totally acceptable to me. We are a generation of practical people, passionate about so many things. With the world fighting over everything under the sun, at least we have held peace on one aspect of our personal lives. I like it that Raj and Simran sought the family’s blessings and acceptance. Being a mother, I expect no less from my children.
||Sarvam Sri Krishna Arpanamastu||